Failing Fabulously

Failure is not a bad word. 

Hear me out…

Failure is where we learn. Does it suck? Yes, it does because being disappointed is a real thing but that’s ok because what we’re not going to do is pretend that we’re not going to be bummed if something doesn’t work out. It’s what happens after the disappointment that matters most though.

It’s in the AFTER that we can get stuck in

Regret

Embarrassment

Shame 

Fear

Every single one is low vibrational energy. It’s in the crucial days after the failure that we actually have the opportunity to mine for gold though if we know what to ask ourselves. But how can you even think when you’re stuck in a shame spiral? How can you possibly examine what could’ve been different if you’re being weighed down with regret? Feeling sad or embarrassed is not wrong but it’s how long you’re going to unpack and live there that really matters. Have your feelings but then decide when it’s time to switch gears and by switching gears I mean raising your thoughts to higher vibrating energy. It’s right after that your mind will sound the alarm for the Gremlin to wake up and start talking smack. Once the Gremlin is up then here comes Assumptions, Interpretations, and Limiting beliefs – 4 energy blocks that will guarantee you never try again. 

This is about a perspective shift. Nothing fancy, just allowing ourselves to rethink how we were taught to reject failure. There are people who would rather hide, or worse, than face being called a failure. Why? Because we have it drilled into our heads that failing is embarrassing and should be kept secret. So we shut down, don’t talk about it, and pretend like it didn’t happen. We allow people who aren’t even in the game to make us feel ashamed for having the courage to play it.  So we don’t try again. If we give in to the shame, the running away and hiding we never try again and we miss the best part of failing. When we fail, we get to ask and examine WHAT happened. If we can figure out what happened then we can work to avoid it for next time. Once we figure out what not to do again next time, we then get to ask what DID go well? What can we keep? Last, and the best part, in my opinion,  is we get to ask ourselves what we learned from the experience. This is the celebration, the golden nugget. If we can accept and see that after every failure is an actual lesson learned and an opportunity to grow then I think it’s cause for celebration. Want to get really wild???

Create a failure board! Yes, you read it right, a failure board. Put up your greatest eff-up loud and proud. List what happened, how you shifted it, and what you learned from it on a board, and give yourself a giant ass gold star. I plan on having a ton more wins in this lifetime and expect a few or more failures along the way but it will all be worth it if I can leave this earth saying I did it all, tried it all, some of it was a hot mess and some of it came out better than I imagined. 

And that’s on Failing Fabulously. 

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