I love looking up words because sometimes I discover important pieces to the definition that we leave out. Like sensuality. Merriam-Webster defines it as relating to or consisting of the gratification of the senses or the indulgence of appetite while Dictionary.com goes further to say it’s the enjoyment, expression, or pursuit of physical, especially sexual, pleasure and the condition of being pleasing or fulfilling to the senses.
So is feeling sensual about sex all the time or not? In a word, no. Sensuality can lead to sex but the two do not necessarily amount to the same thing. For instance, you can have a sensual experience when eating a super delicious dessert. You can have a sensual experience drinking a really good latte. The overwhelming feeling of love and warmth we can feel during a hug from a best friend can be considered a sensual experience. When I speak of sensuality when it comes to women I am speaking directly to her embodiment of the senses in her everyday life.
We’ve become accustomed to going through life at lightning speed. Between rushing our meals and practically receiving packages 5 minutes after we hit “CONFIRM PAYMENT”, most of us are moving too fast through life to notice the small pleasures. Remember the fun and thrill of anticipating something arriving? When was the last time you felt deep satisfaction after savoring every bite of a favorite meal?
Well who the hell has time for pleasure in the middle of a busy day? We all do actually. We can learn to slow down and enjoy and experience moments of pleasure throughout our day. Starting from noticing how your body feels when she wakes up and creating time to stretch her to creating time for your mind to be quiet for a little while, sans the distractions of screens or having to attend to other people’s needs.
You experience pleasure by intentionally choosing to wear clothing and fabric that feel good on your skin and body. A physical energy drain sometimes can be attributed to the tight shoes you’re wearing or the tag scratching the back of your neck. What does your home smell like? Are there scents that could put you in an energized or zen state depending on what you need? What are you anointing your pulse points with so you carry a scent with you throughout your day?
Whether you’re driving to work or working from home, music can bring you pleasure. Sometimes it’s enough just to pay attention to the natural sounds around me, like the wind whipping through trees or the rain pelting away on the roof.
And food, my God, food is something we could spend more time enjoying, savoring and fully experiencing. Food is all about textures, smells, tastes and visuals. Have you ever had a dessert that makes your toes curl and your eyes close in ecstasy? Yeah, I can make food a whole sensual experience and then some.
Ok, but how does being sensually embodied help you really? Will it make you a better person? Will it make sex better? Will it help you to feel empowered?
Yes. To all of the above and more. Paying attention to your senses keeps you present to the world around you which is literally full of phenomenal things to see and feel. A moment with a sunset can fill me with such a love for Spirit and surround me with a sense of calm. You were created with the same thoughtful details that you find on a flower, and trust, neither you nor the flowers were created by accident. Dialing in to how things make you feel when you’re experiencing them keeps you aware and connected to your hopes and desires. Understanding your hopes and desires is important because it’s about understanding what sparks your joy and what soothes your pain. It’s about knowing – NO, FEELING what you want so clearly that validation from others becomes completely unnecessary. Knowing yourself on such an intimate level is to truly be in relationship with yourself, to be your own woman. This is the work I love doing most with my clients and the information I am most passionate about sharing.
I am declaring this summer my Hot Goddess Summer and I plan on filling it with as many things that bring me joy, peace, and pleasure. And what better way to support a Hot Goddess Summer than with The Pure Mvmnt 6 Week Series online?
Yes, goddesses, for those of you who have been asking for the opportunity to take this from the comfort of your home it is now happening. 6 weeks, 6 sessions on Zoom with me accompanied by your very own student manual to reflect, discover and create your unique goddess expression with.
The Pure Mvmnt 6 Week Immersion begins Sunday July 25th
Registration opens June 21st: